Healing Relationships Through Personality Dimensions®

As many of us have realized through COVID-19, our core relationships are very important to us, whether they are with parents, siblings, friends, or co-workers.  What is puzzling, however, is that these relationships can often cause us the greatest stress.  Personality Dimensions® gives us a lens to examine these important relationships and find ways to improve them.

One of the ways that a knowledge of Personality Dimensions® can be useful is by helping us understand that personalities can be quite different – even within the same family. It acknowledges that there are four different temperaments, and each has both strengths and challenges. Once we understand that people are not being difficult, rather they are behaving according to their innate preferences, it generally leads to a greater tolerance of difference. To show how this works, lets look at a mother-daughter relationships that had challenges. Amelie, a 19-year-old, has had a strained relationship with her mother since she became a teenager. Amelie thrives on variety and loves change in her life. She is very creative and is pursuing a Diploma in visual arts at a local community college. She is not quite sure where it will take her, but she is spontaneous, fun loving and likes to go with the flow. Her mother, Maria, seems almost the opposite. Maria is structured and orderly and likes to make life as predictable as possible. She is an excellent planner and believes that you should work first and then play. She loves her daughter tremendously but worries about her because she is disorganized and seems to let life happen to her rather than to plan for it. She also worries because Amelie seems willing to take more risks than she would like. She wonders how a visual arts certificate will ever lead her daughter to a nice secure job. Amelie for her part, often feels constrained by her mother’s “shoulds” and “oughts” and frequently feels that she cannot be herself around her mom.

A breakthrough came in their relationship when Amelie attended a Personality Dimensions® workshop as part of one of her community college courses. She realized that she was a Resourceful Orange and that her mother was very likely an Organized Gold. She took this knowledge back to her mother, explained the four dimensions, and her mother agreed with Amelie’s assessment. They had a good chat about both their similarities and differences, and recognized that they needed to be more tolerant of each other in the future. While they both realized they had a long way to go to rebuild their relationship, they felt that this was an important first step in understanding each other better.


Susan Geary PhD. is a Personality Dimensions® Master Trainer and co-author of two books on Personality Dimensions® – Colour Savvy: Helping you Achieve Success in your Work Life and Your Personality Unlocked: Living Life to its Fullest. She has over 30 years experience as a management and communication Skills facilitator, and training consultant. She has facilitated Personality Dimensions® workshops to over 1,000 participants in all walks of life. Susan can be reached at susan@susangearyassociates.com.

Your Personality Unlocked

Your Personality Unlocked Book

If you haven’t already read Your Personality Unlocked – Living Life to its Fullest, what are you waiting for Personality Dimensions® Master Trainers, and authors of Colour Savvy, Anne Bulstrode and Susan Geary give us the book everyone has been asking for.

Your Personality Unlocked is a great introduction to using Personality Dimensions® in all aspects of life, and also makes a great leave-behind for clients who have participated in one of your workshops. Print copies are available now on CLSR.ca or get it for Kindle on Amazon.com /.ca/.com.au/.co.uk.

We asked Anne and Susan to share why they wrote this book, and what it will do for the reader. Here’s what they had to say…

Our goal was to write a book about Personality Dimensions® that was easy to read and understand and that everyone would benefit from. We wanted to make sure that even if you knew nothing about Personality Dimensions®, you could pick the book up, grasp the different dimensions and use it as a tool to become more self-aware and gain a greater understanding of others. Equally, our hope was that if you already understand the four dimensions, you could gain some additional insights into others.

To help those that are new to the dimensions, we start off the book with a self-assessment that allows you to figure out the different dimensions that you use. Then we shift our focus to the difference between introversion and extraversion and includes a self-assessment to help you decide what your preference is.
In chapter three, readers will be able to learn about the unique needs and values associated with each dimension.

The next three chapters focus on various aspects of communication. First, we give insights into how to communicate with different dimensions, as well as how you prefer to be communicated with. Then we look at relationships and examine what the relationship needs are for each dimension. And finally, most people find conflict with others stressful and are sometimes lost about how to manage conflict situations. As a starting point, chapter 6 helps us gain insight into what causes the different dimensions conflict, how each dimension causes conflict for others and how they behave when in conflict.

Work offers different joys and challenges, and we go on to discuss how each dimension can thrive at work, both as employees and managers.

People often ask us how to figure out the primary dimension of another person. While this is not an exact science, we offer some visual, verbal and non-verbal clues that can help you make an educated guess about other’s preferred dimensions.

Finally, we tie the whole book together by looking at the similarities between the dimensions, some of the differences and how to bridge these differences.


Anne and Susan are partners in Up Your Potential. They are international speakers, facilitators, personality experts, and coaches with over 25+ years’ experience, each helping people reach their goals by empowering them to develop the necessary skills and knowledge to perform optimally. They are the co-authors of the bestselling book Colour Savvy: Helping you Achieve Success in Your Work Life, and a number of Personality Dimensions® Online reports.

In their private practices, they have worked extensively with individuals and organizations. Their solutions are relevant, practical and results-oriented. They have been working with a wide range of clients in the area of Personality Theory, Management Development, Team Building, Interpersonal Communications,
Wellness, Resilience and Conflict Resolution. They embraced Personality Dimensions® in 2003, are both Master Level Personality Dimensions® Facilitators and whenever possible, they incorporate it into their work.

Anne and Susan will be presenting (virtually) at the British Association for Psychological Type in April, 2022 on Temperaments at Work in the Post-Pandemic World.