I was watching television the other night, a courtroom drama, and my ears picked up as the lead actor stood up from behind a table, straightened her jacket and said, “With all due respect … .” Really?! What came next didn’t extend a whole lot of respect to anyone.
That got me thinking. It’s easy to laugh at others, belittle them or make them the butt of insensitive jokes or careless statements. And we can easily be worn down when we’re on the receiving end. For years now we have emphasized the importance of making a positive impact in each and every Personality Dimensions® workshop. As facilitators, this often means re-framing or rephrasing things that come up that might be hurtful to others, or, in other words, constitutes “colour bashing.”
For that very reason, one of the hardest projects under the Personality Dimensions umbrella that I have been involved with was working with Lynda McKim, and later with the team of reviewers, to develop the In Conflict cards. We needed to be sensitive to a myriad of things that might be unintentionally hurtful or harmful and yet, at the same time, make the cards as useful as possible.
I love it when I can laugh at myself – and with some of the stuff I get into it’s a good thing I came with a strong sense of humour – and that’s why I enjoy watching The Lighter Side of Talking in Colour: it always gives me a good chuckle or two.
It’s great to have permission to laugh at myself and with others as we enjoy learning about how others see us. Hope you’re having a day littered with little moments that you can look back at and, at the very least, smile when you think about them.
Denise Hughes is the Director and owner of Career/LifeSkills Resources Inc. and general editor of Personality Dimensions® materials and products. She just noticed the calendar and realized it is just past the 41st anniversary of her introduction to career and type and temperament materials. Those experiences and the expertise she gained through her years with the Guidance Centre, University of Toronto, and now with CLSR, continue to shape the direction that both Career/LifeSkills Resources and Personality Dimensions® take.